Gilmore Girls offers up one of the worlds' most loved mother-daughter duos, but on top of this, the show also features some great friendships. One could argue that Lorelai and Rory's mother-daughter relationship actually is, in fact, a friendship, and in this way the show wraps two in one, accomplishing a wholesome mix of familial love and the comradeship of best friends.
Do: She's ive
Lorelai is attentive to her friends' interests and always willing to hear about their concerns and celebrations. She likes being a part of a community, and she involves herself in most of the things that go on in her town. If there's an event that needs assistance, she has her hand up. If a friend needs a favor, she will try to help.
Don't: She's Self-Centered
As loving and ive as she can be, Lorelai also has a great capacity for self-involvement. She gets lost in spirals of self-obsession, over-analyzing her life and often falling into bouts of self-pity. It's easy to see disappointment as an excuse to pout and behave badly, but Lorelai is a grown woman--yet she often acts like a teenager.
Do: She's Fun
Haters may say what they will about Lorelai, but she knows how to have fun. She's an enthusiastic person, and whenever Rory has friends over Lorelai is immediately attentive to how she can help to enhance the experience, in a way this is not over-involved.
She is good at having a good time for herself and smoothes over many social situations for other people as well.
Don't: She Thinks She's Hilarious
Lorelai is very funny. She knows what seems like every single pop-culture reference in the world, she is quick-witted, and her jokes are light-hearted enough to appeal to most crowds (although not her own parents, usually).
However, Lorelai is almost constantly whipping out jokes and always at rapid-fire speed. It gets to the point where she borders on being a glutton for attention.
Do: She's A Problem Solver
Maybe it's from raising a daughter from the age of sixteen, or perhaps its just part of her personality. Either way, Lorelai regularly proves herself to be an adept problem-solver, whether it's tackling her own predicaments or aiding in somebody else's. This would make her a great friend to have in a tight spot, and it would be reassuring to know she was there if one ever needed her assistance.
Don't: She's Vain
Lorelai loves swapping clothes with Rory and shopping for clothes and pretty much most things to do with clothes. She is very aware of her physical appearance--some would say too aware.
It's a bit odd sometimes to watch her spread this focus on image to Rory, as Rory is her child and yet often treated as a friend. In this way, it would be tough to be the daughter-friend of Lorelai if one isn't as interested in materialism and vanity.
Do: She's Ambitious
It wouldn't be a very big deal for the daughter of wealthy parents to aspire to run her own business one day, but Lorelai's story is, of course, more complicated than that. Lorelai very often identifies with the working-class, as she rejected her parents' financial for most of her life. It's irable to see her work her way up from the bottom and set her eyes on greater goals. Having such a friend is often infectious, and would likely make a person feel more ambitious themselves.
Don't: She Whines About Her Family
Lorelai's family can be the utter worst. They are up-tight, alienated from the concerns of average people, and they offer little to no lee-way when it comes to considering Lorelai's perspective.
This considered, Lorelai spends a lot of time complaining about them, and always about the same general things. It's warranted that she would complain, but at the same time, her parents a huge help in her life and it would be difficult as her friend to watch her take this for granted, especially when most people don't have wealthy parents to help them.
Do: She's Down To Earth
Being on her own since she was sixteen shows in Lorelai's no-nonsense demeanor. She is certainly a perky, silly person who goofs around a lot, but at the end of the day she is logical and practical as a rule. It's good to have a friend who offers a stable foundation, and Lorelai offers a clear perspective and calm, efficient approach when people need her.
Don't: She's Overwhelming
Lorelai holds many charms, but, as with many people, the things that stand out about her and make her so charming can frequently tip over into excess. Lorelai's enthusiastic attitude and perky approach to life would take some getting used to for new friends and would require either bluntly honest communication from close friends or a habit of knowing when to take time away from her. What's so great about Lorelai is that she meets things head-on, but at times she can be overstimulating, and one might prefer a little more subtlety.