Well I would suggest having all your surgeries and recouperated first before I considered anything. Then learn to drive. Save some money so you can yourself. Then think it over long and hard because regardless things change and we need our family

Michael you need to get a job. Ask your fellow friend from Africa. He has a wonderful job, great wife, kids and just bought a house. You have to learn to pay to play. You have been handed all the tools now just do it. No more sympathy. Angela was not for you. Find a nice woman that will work together with you, not against you. Good luck.