I can't fight you over Bruce and Selina's relationship but all I can say is that Julie has always been the healthiest partner for Bruce. Even when she broke up with him in the golden age, she assured her he could call her if he needed anything, the new 52 she gave up her happiness to Bruce being Batman, in masters of the future, she assured him she'll him being batman and this Gotham by gaslight age of kryptonite is the continuation of the story and she really lived up to her promise. She's basically a greater version of MJ but DC is too scared to give batman such happiness

The truth that a lot of Catwoman fails to accept is that she is indeed manipulative. Yes she had helped Bruce on occasions but the times she had put him in danger sures the help moments