HBO's and the City may be a series about female friends, but a lot of screen time is about their love lives. Charlotte York (Kristin Davis) is the most traditional of the main characters, and she believes that the best thing that she can do is become someone's wife. The problem, of course, is that dating is really tough (and dating in New York City is even worse), so she's had a lot of bad luck along the way.
Approaching someone new to see if there's a connection or going on yet another first date isn't easy, but Charlotte has said a lot of things over the course of the series that could attract a mate. At the same time, some of her words might be turn-offs. Read on to find out five Charlotte lines from Sex and the City that might actually work when picking someone up, and five that never would.
Might Work: "It's love at first sight."
When Charlotte says this in the Season 2 episode "The Chicken Dance," it's not something that Samantha (Kim Cattrall) wants to hear. But if Charlotte used it as a pick-up line, it actually might work.
When people are ready for a relationship and they've been playing the dating game for a long time, they do believe in love at first sight. Sure, they might not want to it it, especially not on a first date, but this is why they keep going on dates. Charlotte could win someone over with this line... as long as they're somewhat of a hopeless romantic or at least looking for love.
Never Would: "I just know no matter how good I feel about myself, if I see Christy Turlington, I just wanna give up."
If Charlotte used this as a pick-up line, it would definitely never work because it makes her seem insecure and unsure of herself. The most attractive personality trait that someone could have is confidence.
Everyone has days where they don't feel their best, but dating means putting those thoughts to rest and making the best impression possible. When Charlotte says this line, it seems like she wants sympathy, and that's not great.
Might Work: "I'm a person! And this is supposed to be a relationship! And I am done walking on eggshells!"
Charlotte and Trey's marriage is very difficult, and in the Season 4 episode "What's Sex Got to Do with It?" Charlotte says this speech to him. This is something that she could definitely say as a pick-up line, and it would work because she's being honest and standing up for herself.
It's not attractive when someone acts weak and lets the other person in the relationship have all of the power. Charlotte isn't always good at expressing her thoughts and emotions, but she manages to do so in this scene, and it's a great quote.
Never Would: "Allow me to get right to the point. After careful consideration, I have decided that this is the year I am getting married.”
Charlotte says this in the third season, and it's a pick-up line that would never work. No one wants someone to talk about kids or marriage on the first date... or maybe even the third date.
It's too much, too soon, and Charlotte would scare someone away if she said this to them right away. A relationship has to progress naturally, and the marriage talk should only come up once it's clear that two people have a really great, healthy partnership.
Might Work: "I think it's wrong to sleep with a man just to fulfill a certain fantasy."
This line of Charlotte's might work if she was talking to someone who is as traditional about dating, marriage, and relationships as she is.
She's never as comfortable as the other main characters in talking about sex, and she basically blushes every time Samantha gets too detailed. If Charlotte said this to someone who was also looking for marriage, they might like hearing it. They would think that they were on the same page.
Never Would: "Everyone needs a man..."
Everyone needs a man. That's why I rent. If you own and he still rents, then the power structure is all off. It's emasculating. Men don't want a woman who's too self-sufficient.
People don't like being told what they do or don't like, especially concerning matters of the heart. So this line might not work out too well if Charlotte tried using it on someone.
While she believes in the typical fairytale romance that is shown in movies, and she wants to be in a marriage with traditional gender roles, this isn't that attractive to everyone. A lot of people want someone who is independent and has their own money. Sorry, Charlotte.
Might Work: "I'm nice. I'm pretty and I'm smart! I'm a catch!"
This is a Charlotte line that might work because, although she says it when she's been drinking a little too much, it could seem pretty charming.
After all, these things are totally true. Charlotte is intelligent, dresses well, and tries hard to be a good, sweet person, so why shouldn't she celebrate the fact that she's a catch? The right person will agree with her.
Never Would: "I'm trying to put myself out there but...I feel hopeless."
It's easy to picture Charlotte saying this to someone on a first date (or a second date that she wanted to turn into a relationship). She would it that she was trying her best but she was struggling.
The reason that this line would never work, of course, is that Charlotte is being a little too honest. People want more mystery than that, at least in the beginning. There's a difference between being real with someone and sounding desperate.
Might Work: "It’s really because women just wanna be rescued."
This might actually work if Charlotte used it as a pick-up line because she's playing into the whole "damsel in distress" idea. And if she was speaking to someone who was traditional, they would love hearing this.
Some people are more independent than others in a relationship, but others, like Charlotte, want to be taken care of. And there are plenty of people who want to take care of their partner all the time.
Never Would: "I've been dating since I was fifteen! I'm exhausted! Where is he?"
This is a line of Charlotte's that would absolutely never work. She would sound crazy and desperate if she told someone this, and they might wonder if she was going to settle for the next person who showed some interest in her.
There's a fine line between wanting to meet someone and knowing that it's best to be single and wait for the right person, and that's something that the ladies of Sex and the City have to grapple with throughout the whole series.