Hell may have frozen over, because on the latest episode of Kody Brown. Kody, the patriarch of a formerly polygamous family, has been reeling in recent seasons after three of his four wives decided to leave the family. Kody was married to four wives for much of Sister Wives' run: Meri Brown, Janelle Brown, Christine Brown, and Robyn Brown. Between them, they were raising 18 children, and all seemed well for the Brown family.

The family moved from their idyllic cul-de-sac in Las Vegas to Flagstaff, Arizona, after Kody and his wives purchased a she was followed by Janelle and Meri. Kody and Robyn remain married.

Kody Is Healing From His Divorces

Kody Is Finally Acting Self-Aware

On Sister Wives season 19, episode 22, we're finally starting to see some development on Kody's part. Christine left him in 2021, so Kody's had a few years to process his failed marriages. Healing isn't linear, and everyone is on their own path, so it's hopeful to see that Kody is finally starting to come to a place of acceptance regarding his divorces. He's starting to recognize that the more time that es, the easier it is to move forward.

Kody is more reflective about his marriages now, and his about own shortcomings.

He said that during his divorces, he became self-destructive, and that nearly caused him to sabotage his marriage to Robyn. Kody is showing a level of maturity I haven't seen him display before. He's open about his flaws, and the way his anger made everything worse when the family was falling apart.

I can see why Kody spiraled during his divorces. He's a man who so devoutly believed in the merits of polygamy, he opened up his family to reality television cameras back in 2010. He wanted to be an example to others out there, and prove that polygamy could work, so much so that he risked his family being exposed to the legal ramifications of being plural. The family even had to move from Utah to Las Vegas after they went public, since they would have more protection for their "unconventional" lifestyle in Las Vegas.

To have not one, but three of his wives leave him was humiliating for a guy like Kody.

He has expressed that he feels less valuable now that some of his wives have left, and he worried that Robyn wouldn't want him anymore. The divorces didn't just impact Kody, Meri, Christine, and Janelle. They impacted the entire family.

I've literally never heard Kody say things like, "Plural marriage is hard. I thought from my myopic perspective that it was just hard on me. But I failed to recognize what a struggle this would be for my wives." Kody is finally recognizing that even though the marriages seemed fine and dandy from his perspective, he wasn't thinking about his wives, other than Robyn. He didn't see them as sentient individuals with wants and desires that he couldn't ever fulfill, and them leaving him was actually the best move for them.

Kody Is Reconnecting With His Older Kids

Kody Became Estranged From Many Of His Children During Divorces

Janelle saw that Kody was putting his family with Robyn above their family, she decided to leave him. Janelle will always pick her children over Kody.

"I got alienated from my children when the divorces happened."

During a Valentine's dinner with Robyn in episode 22, Kody tells her about a trip he took to see some of his older daughters. Yes, he still blames his exes for the deterioration of his relationships with his older children, but at least now, he's trying to fix them. He told Robyn he didn't feel welcome in some of their lives after the splits, but as a parent, he should have overcome those feelings and tried to keep his relationships with his children strong. He didn't, and it caused a lot of resentment.

Kody Apologized To Robyn For His Anger During Divorces

Kody Accepted Responsibility For Putting Robyn In A Tough Spot

During their Valentine's dinner, Kody was introspective about the impact the divorces had on his relationship with Robyn. He said he became so angry, he nearly ruined his marriage to Robyn. Robyn was going through her own processing of the break-ups. She'd always envisioned growing old all together, so the other wives leaving was a betrayal to her as well, and Kody pushing her away didn't help.

"I'm sad because the difficulties of the past three years have affected us," Kody told Robyn. "I want to apologize for the dark space I went through and how it harmed you. It wasn't fair to you." Kody went on to explain that he was so hurt from the rejection of his wives leaving, he nearly sabotaged his marriage to Robyn. "I was so broken. I was self-destructive."

"I'm sorry to you; I'm sorry to them."

Kody finally apologized for the pain all of his wives experienced. His apology is a way for him to take ability for what went wrong. He's not acting like the victim he has been acting like for the past three years. Kody has been doing some processing, clearly, and he's coming to a place of peace with everything that went down.

Kody Said He Didn’t Mean It When He Said He Never Loved Former Wives

Kody Said That Was Said In Anger

Kody has spent multiple seasons now trying to heal from his divorces. Within that healing, he said very hurtful things about his former marriages. He claimed he was never attracted to Christine, and that he never loved any of them. But this new version of Kody recognizes that those things were said in anger, and that he didn't mean them.

"I'm trying to move on, but I'm kind of arrogant and cocky about how I do it in order to fight the emotions. Like all that s**t I said about not loving my wives, my exes, was me trying to dial in how I felt about it. I was bulls******g myself. I was like, 'Oh yeah, I'm not affected by this, those mean women, they're gone. I never loved them anyway!' I mean, this is really the crap I was spewing because that was the only defense I had. Divorce just does that to you."

Kody said he doesn't blame his ex-wives for being angry with him. He was angry at them too. And then he said that as much as he said he didn't love them, he does love them. He just hates this situation.

This is the most mature, self-aware version of Kody I've ever seen, and I've watched every single season of Sister Wives. The episode ends with Kody saying he hopes that someday, they could all be friends. Time really does heal all wounds, and Kody's growth is proof of that.

Sister Wives airs Sunday nights at 10 p.m. EDT on TLC.